As a closeted, suburbs-bred grad student by day, hummus-slinging, hard-partying twentysomething by night in turn-of-the-millennium New York, Ryan discovers his live-in boyfriend has been leading a sordid double life. (It spoils nothing to report that that chapter was originally entitled “Hooker Revelation Day.”) Grappling with his sense of self as a result, Ryan turns to these pages to tell tales of club-hopping, substance abuse, getting arrested, hooking up with guys AND girls … and how this all leads to both accepting his sexuality and facing down sobriety. A particularly hedonistic 20-hour party binge and the OD of a loved one are the one-two punch that sets Ryan on a different course. It’s a turbulent rite of passage, to be sure, but ultimately paves the way for Ryan to finally grow up.
This humorous, poignant memoir stars a cast of colorful characters as they bounce around legendary NYC nightlife venues like Limelight, Twilo, and Roxy in a post-AIDS, pre-9/11 sliver of time littered with designer drugs, soaked in booze, and soundtracked by classic house club anthems.
To the parent of a teenager, there are no sweeter words than these. Help is here!
This book is the one I wish I had read 29 years ago, when my first child turned 13. Since then, I have parented twelve children careening through their teen years, the twilight zone period between thirteen and eighteen years of age.
Whether you think of this time period as ‘The Never Ending Story’, ‘Mission Impossible’, or ‘Walking Through the Valley of the Shadow of Debt’, it is not only possible for you to survive your child’s teenage years, but to build a solid adult relationship with them.
This book contains 101 ideas that can help you navigate the teenage minefield!
As parents, we think we always need to have the right answer, and have everything figured out.
Then life happens.
There is no way to plan a perfect response to the unexpected. It is essential to be hard on some things and soft on others. Confident, yet understanding. Accessible, yet discreetly invisible. You need to be as firm as a drill sergeant and as flexible as a yoga instructor. You need to use all of the experience you’ve gathered over the years, but never forget what it was like to be a teenager.
Parenting teenagers is not for the faint of heart and nobody gets it right all the time.
The good news is this: You are already an exceptional parent! In fact, I would guess that you are in the upper percentile of good parents! I say that confidently because you are taking positive measures to improve your parenting skills by shopping for books such as this. This book is by no means the tell all or end all of parenting books, but rather, a collection of useful tips from my nearly thirty years of parenting teenagers.
I would also guess that you are already doing a lot of things right! We all make mistakes, and mine have been mercifully left out of this book, saved for another larger volume to be written later.
101 Tips For Parenting Teenagers Or “Who Messed Up My Kid?” will help you avoid some of the mistakes I made while you make YOUR journey through the teenage years. Whether you are a parent, a teenager, or an innocent bystander, it is my hope that you will find the following pages enlightening and (I hope) a little bit entertaining.
Too often we close our ears to all that is around us, but if we take the time to listen, we will realise that the furniture is screaming to be heard.